Our 7 top tips for the perfect proposal
Found the one but not sure how to propose? We understand – this isn’t just any question you’re about to ask, it’s the big question. And, even if you’re sure you know the answer, it’s still a life-changing moment. Read on for a civilised guide to proposing.
KNOW THE ANSWER
Nobody likes being told “no,” especially when it’s the answer to “will you marry me?” The topic of marriage should be something that the two of you have already discussed and are in agreement about. The time and place can be a surprise, but there should be no uncertainty about the answer. Putting someone in the position where “no” is a possibility is just very awkward for everyone. Especially if you’ve decided to propose in public.
Some people love being the centre of attention and a flash mob that concludes with them being presented with an engagement ring would be their idea of heaven. Other people, not so much – they’d prefer to keep things private. Make sure you know which camp your beloved is in before deciding how to propose. This is a special moment, so you want to make sure it’s memorable for all the right reasons.
PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT
Now is the not the time to be stumbling over your words. Whether you want to say a few elegant phrases or go for a longer-form proposal, it’s worth practicing a couple of times to make sure you know what you’re going to say and how you’re going to say it. This is no time to be pulling out note cards. Plus, your future affianced will want to feel that you’re certain about this.
MAKE IT A FAMILY AFFAIR
Of course, we are way past asking someone’s father for their permission to marry, but speaking to your beloved’s parents, or a significant family member or close friend, can be a nice touch if you would like their blessing (and moral support) before you pop the question. After all, their family is going to be a significant part of your life now.
PUT A RING IN IT
Engagement rings generally come in lovely boxes that are purpose-built to keep the ring safe and display it to its best advantage. Avocados, milkshakes, bowls of chocolate mousse and other things that are lovely to eat are not designed for engagement rings. You’ve put time and effort into choosing a beautiful ring, why spoil it by covering it in whipped cream?
TIMING IS EVERYTHING
A key factor in knowing how to propose is getting the timing right. Maybe you had a romantic dinner planned but if your partner comes home late from work with a last-minute report that needs to be on their boss’s desk by morning, gracefully postpone for another night. Conversely, maybe you had no concrete plan to propose but you’ve had a wonderful day together, the mood is right and you decide to carpe diem. The right time is the time that’s right for both of you, not just the plan you had in mind.
TIMING IS EVERYTHING
You’ll want to follow your proposal with something special. So plan a picnic, a meal at your favourite restaurant or even a surprise dinner with friends or family. It’s time to pour a glass of Champagne and celebrate!